This was the best advise I have received in my life when you have to determine if it is time to stay or move on.
This is a decision you have to make after you meet with your leader. Will you stay or will you go? May be your leader says he will change. If that turns out to be true, great. May be he says he will not change. Are you willing to live with that? May be the conversation you had with your leader did greater damage to the relationship. As someone once said: “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes is better to leave them broken than to hurt yourself trying to put them back together.” In the end you may not be able to change the people around you, but you can change the people you choose to be around.
If you are still having a hard time trying to decide whether to stay or go, ask yourself this question: If I weren’t already working here, knowing what I know now, would I want to become part of this organization? If the answer is no, it’s time to go. If the answers is “I don’t know” ask yourself again in six months. If the answer is yes, stay and learn how to work with your leader.
I have been doing some searching for quite sometime. For now I will just call it an “intimate search”. Have you ever been in my situation before? A time where you are searching for something? Sometimes people search for something like peace, a new job, a revelation, a sign, clarity, for the perfect friend, a haircut, a tattoo, etc… I think this is something very common I hope.
Well, when you are on the search of that “something ” do you pay attention to what’s around you? Do you wait and pay attention to the signs? Or do you just search and forget to get ready and miss the signs? I think you need to pay attention to this. As I was on my search, praying and working hard for what I’m searching for, I actually got the answers that I needed in order to move on. How do I know? Well because as I said before I listen, I stay aware and I make sure I do not miss the signs.
Today I am so thankful. I’m thankful because I have been looking for a life coach to work with. When I look for something that is important to me, I make sure that I find the right person. I am by nature a very picky person and I am not afraid to say it. I am a person with very high expectations/standards. Sometimes that is good and sometimes not so much. However as I was doing my research I found someone that I really liked, but that person was charging way more than what I would’ve liked to pay for.
In the meantime I learned about this other person but she was booked. She is not taking new clients until January 2021. Well, I decided to be on her waiting list since she shared with me she had one. One day , probably two weeks after her email telling me that she would love to put me on her waiting list I get an email saying she had an opening. I said to myself, Oh MyGod!!! This is so wonderful!!. I let her know that I was highly interested. I took the opening. We talked few days later. She wanted to know what I was looking for in order for her to have an idea if she could help me. She explained to me what she does and we went over the paper work/agreement she had emailed me prior to my call. Well, guess what? It was a great conversation. She liked me and for sure I liked her. So the next step was to make an appointment to further explain myself, meet her in person and see if we could work together.
I made it to the appointment and let me tell you I had the best appointment ever. The thing I enjoyed the best was when she said Janitza I would love to work with you if you would like to work with me. I will open time on my schedule for you. Wow! You are talking about gratitude, right? That was so powerful. We are a match and on top of that I can afford her, so it is a win- win.
Now, part of my search has been found. Let me be clear, this is not “my intimatesearch” Omg, I have found someone who is willing to help me, someone who is adding time to her schedule to work with me. This lady has had to reduce her hours because her mother is ill and she cares for her and she wants to spend as much time as possible with her. If I am not thankful for this wonderful opportunity, I sure must be out of my mind.
You know how many people I have helped in my life? Do you know the amount of people that I know I have made a difference in their life but I haven’t heard a thank you? That doesn’t mean they are not thankful. It just means that they haven’t said it to me. I do not want to be that kind of a person. Today I want to be the person that shares gratitude.
Today I am thankful. Thankful for my life coach. I made sure to let her know with a thank you card. I am not done yet, I know she will be bringing lots of good to my life and when that happens I will make sure to let her know one more time.
Show gratitude. It is the best exercise someone can practice.
This little girl has taught me in two years what college did not teach me in four. I feel like it has been two years of lots of learning, lots of love and lots of understanding. I never thought a little person can show you to pay attention right now to what is happening because you have been given the opportunity to change, to do something different than how you typically do it.
This little girl can show you what you’re passionate about, where your boundaries are and what you believe need to change about the world.
A little girl like Keyani can help you understand the person you do not want to be and help you understand that you have the opportunity to forgive yourself in order to move on. There is so much to learn from a little person like her. Just be present 100% every single time you have the opportunity to be with your children, your loved ones, whomever it is you are giving your time to and if you are not able to do so, do not compromise.
There is always a lesson. There is always an opportunity, there is always HOPE, but most of all there is always LOVE.
We had a wonderful time in Nashville TN this past weekend. I hope you can enjoy and appreciate the pictures. Most of you know that it is very important to be able to get along with your teammates. We spend more time with them than we do with our own families.
We do a very good job making sure we all feel good about what we do and that our environment is a safe place to work. Our patients love how we interact with them and how we interact with each other’s.
You must know that dentistry is a very hard career to be in but also very rewarding. We get to change people’s lives for ever on a daily basis. People come to us with lots of anxiety and they come to us very vulnerable and if it wasn’t because they feel comfortable with us that vulnerability wouldn’t happen. This is why we make sure we take the time to be away from our families to fill up our own cup. We have to get better at what we do, we need to get better so we can continue to provide top notch dental care and this is why we get along well and make our place a great place to be.
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