#storytelling – Let's Be Real Authentic with Janitza

Quit Treating Your Feelings As Good Or Bad

It’s human nature to want to create two simple and easy piles of emotions: the good ones and the bad ones. For instance, most people would automatically classify guilt as bad. You don’t want to feel it- it might even beat yourself up about it, and you do whatever you can to get rid of it. Likewise, we tend to let good emotions like excitement run wild. We pump ourselves up and feed up the energy. The downfall of attaching such labels to your emotions is that judging your emotions keeps you from really understanding what it is that you are feeling . When you allow yourself to sit with an emotion and become fully aware of it, you can understand what is causing it. Suspending judgement of emotions allows them to run their course and vanish. Passing judgement on whether you should or shouldn’t be feeling what you are feeling just heaps more emotions in top of the pile and prevents the original feeling from running its course. The next time you feel an emotion begin to build , take notice of it immediately. Refrain from putting it into the good or bad pile and remind yourself that the feeling is there to help you understand something important.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Why are you still here?

Never in my life will I forget this important question. A question that even if you see it like that, and follow your path, you are not going to give it the meaning or the power that it has so much unless you stop, think and analyze it. He asked me that question a little over a year ago, Janitza, why are you still here? I stood up, looked him in the face and answered the question. I gave him a lot of reasons why I was still there. Now, if I tell you, I did not follow my course. I sat in silence and began to answer the question in detail to myself. What he doesn’t know is that day he changed my life. I know he didn’t want to lose me. I know that he knew that I had much more potential than to be enduring things that really did not suit me to endure. From that day on I put my pants on well and said to myself, I deserve more. When it was time to leave he told me, Janitza I envy you, I would like to have my pants on well so that I can do the things you do. Take the risks that you take. And my answer was, “you can do it too”. “The only difference between us is that you don’t want what you dream as much as I want what I dream.” “Dare and you will see.”
The man left me with his mouth open. He texted me at 12:30 am at midnight the other day to ask me for an opinion on something about his business and I gave it to him. He constantly asks me for my opinions. Out of nowhere he texts me with crazy things about him, rather ideas. We are still very good friends. I admire him a lot for other things that I don’t have the pants to do and he thinks I have them on for everything. Haha! I found out that he is now working on his third business. What joy it gave me! I’m crazy to congratulate him in person and let him know that now the one who envies him is me. Haha. Now he’s the one with his pants on. I imagine that his time came like mine came a year ago. Many times I asked him why are you still here? But the question didn’t have the same effect on him as when he asked it to me.
Now I ask you: Fill in your blanks with this question; Why are you still here? Either in an unloved relationship. In an unwanted career, in a toxic friendship, in a place you don’t want to live, in an economic situation that you want to get out of. Ask that question. Meditate and act. And you will see that in a year you will be wondering why I did not ask myself that question before.

Good day.

*The power of Coaching!

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach, Speaker and Trainer

http://www.johnmaxwellgroup.com/janitzarivera

Raise your children that don’t have to recover from their childhood

1.Be authentic – Authenticity is essential for connecting with today’s children.

Connect with your child individually – Good connection is a process which takes time, don’t try to rush it. Seek to create an environment of trust as you connect. Seek first to understand them rather than trying to get them to understand you.
Have Fun – Don’t be afraid to be kid-like with them especially if they are younger.
Demonstrate you care – Maintain a humble servant’s heart with empathy. Let your kids know you value them, their time and their ideas all while demonstrating genuine unconditional love. Keeping this in mind will prevent you from being judgmental, condescending or critical while interacting with them.
Be Teachable – Start where you are and always learn and grow. Be open and willing to learn from them. Let them know we need them, their development and contributions to make the world better.
Keep it Simple – Don’t try to share everything.
Be willing to fail and share your failures – Failure is part of the growing process. Take a risk and laugh at yourself. Do something even if it is not perfect. Even if you mess up in front of them either they will not know or if they do notice laugh at yourself and you will earn their respect.
Get out of your comfort zone – We didn’t learn to walk in a day, do it now and see what happens. Remember: we are all works in progress.
Be patient – Both your children and ourselves are a works in process. Be patient with the growth process and when working with them be patient with them.
Invest time in learning the issues they face and how to serve them.

Our children are our future ❤

For more information about how to create a better environment for your children do not hesitate to let me know. I have great workshops, one on one coaching with parents, and great valuable lessons that depending on where you are in your journey of parenthood I can share with you.

God Bless,

Janitza Rivera, Executive Business Coach, Speaker and Trainer

Learning Patience

Today I had the pleasure to see this 80 years old gentleman for the second time at the office. Yes, the second time. Few weeks ago I saw him for the first time to go over few treatment options. He had few questions then and some things to think about and also some financing to figure out.

I would have to say that I fell in love with him. He is so polite, so cute, he comes in prepare to take notes, asks great questions and he makes sure he leaves with all of his questions answered. He also has a very cute accent. I love listening to him.

Now, we do schedule an hour appointment to go over treatment options with our patients but this man had me in the office for an hour and a half the first time. His appointment ran over my lunch but I didn’t care, I wanted to make sure he was well taken care of.

When he was scheduled for the second meeting I made sure we scheduled an hour just to be safe even though normally 30 minutes is long enough to meet for the second time. Most of the questions are pretty much answered already at the first meeting. I’m glad I was proactive.

This appointment took another almost hour and a half. Again it ran over my lunch time but it didn’t matter because I needed him to be clear of whats going on with his dental care. He would ask the same questions over and over again to make sure he got it. He would make sure he is following every recommendation we are recommending. He wanted to make sure he is able to afford all treatment recommended.

It was such an honor to be the one helping him. You know why? Because this person seating in my chair could’ve been my dad or my grandfather and I would’ve wanted them to be treated the same way. I would have wanted the person take the time to listen, be patient and not felt taken advantage of. This is why I had such a wonderful time talking to him and making sure he is fully aware of everything.

He is so funny, he will pause and tell me little jokes about whatever will come to mind but he would always remember to go back to where we left off.

This is the first 80 year old man I meet that takes no medications. He tell his doctor when he make a recommendation to tell him how to prevent medical problem so he doesn’t have to take medications and he just follows the directions.

He goes to the hospital parking lot and walks every day. Sometimes more than once. You have no idea how much I have learned from him. Just because we are the knowledgeable provider does not mean patients just learn from us. This is not one way street for me. I learn from our patients too and one thing this man had showed me is patience. Not everyone process information the same way and believe it or not that’s has been a struggle for me. My brain process things pretty quickly and not everyone is the same.

I do practice patience every day. To the point that I have a lot of feedback from family, friends and co-workers telling me how well I do with patience. Believe me I don’t have much, ask people who are very close to me but I do work on it every day. I’m very cautious about it. There are so many things I master that you would think I’m very natural about it and thats not the case. Experience and hard work has helped me.

I encourage you to work on your patience today. People need you to be patient especially the elderly. It is not fair to disregard people’s feelings just because they are slower than you or because you are too busy. We live in a very busy world. Learn how to respectfully dismiss them or always schedule for a second meeting.

Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.
-Joyce Meyer

God bless,

Janitza