Tag: #improveyourself

Deja que comienze el llanto

Hay muchas personas que no lidian con su dolor de la manera correcta. Lo encierra y tratan de ser fuertes por amor a los otros, pensando que no les está permitido estar tristes o que no tienen tiempo para salir de la rutina para lidiar con su dolor como es debido. Pero puedo decirte con toda confianza, que incluzo hay personas que dependen de ti, incluso cuando la vida tiene que continuar y tu tienes que seguir adelante, tiene que haber un momento para lidiar con el dolor.
Ruegale a Dios que te ayude con tu dolor. Él es muy bueno consolandote y restaurandote la esperanza mientras oras. Antes de que te des cuenta, otra vez estaras siguiendo con tu vida e incluso, disfrutandola. Vas a encontrar tu ritmo y abrazaras la vida que habias conocido.

Una de las cosas que aprendí acerca del dolor es que uno no pierde la persona, o el sueńo, o cualquier cosa que haya perdido todo en un dia. Uno lo pierde a él,o a ella, o eso gradualmente, a medida que la vida continua. Cuando uno ve algo que le recuerda aquello que perdió, siente dolor. Cuando uno ve algo que trae recuerdos a su mente, siente dolor. Es por eso que el primer ańo después de una perdida es tan difícil: la primera Navidad, el primer cumpleańos, el primer aniversario, el primer concurso…muchos primeros que no se parecen a lo que eran.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Posture

Estudios muestran; tu comunicación no verbal revela tus sentimientos y emociones más claramente que lo que dices.
Los gestos que haces, la forma en que te paras 🧍‍♀️ o te sientas, qué tan rápido o en voz alta hablas, qué tan cerca estás, tus expresiones faciales, todos envían fuertes mensajes sobre cómo te sientes.
Conscientemente o no, otras personas sacan conclusiones sobre tu actitud y emociones; Incluso si estás en silencio, todavía te estás comunicando a través de tu postura y expresiones faciales.
Ser consciente de lo que contribuye a ayudar a la comunicación no verbal, el lenguaje corporal, los gestos, etc. Te ayudará a desarrollar confianza y simpatía entre usted y otras personas. Esto incluye:
👌 lenguaje corporal y gestos abiertos
👌 Expresiones faciales
👌 Una distancia adecuada entre ustedes
👌 Evite inquietarse al escuchar o hablar
👌 Establecer contacto visual
👌 Estar de pie con los pies separados, los hombros relajados y la cabeza nivelada te hace lucir seguro de ti mismo.
👌 Practica tu apretón de manos
👌 Sonríe. Sonreír influye directamente en cómo te responden los demás. 💋

Research shows; your non-verbal communication reveals your feelings and emotions more clearly than what you say.

The gestures you make , the way you stand 🧍‍♀️ or sit, how fast or how loud you talk, how close your stand , your facial expressions, all send strong messages about how you are feeling.

Consciously or not, other people draw conclusions about your attitude and emotions; even if you are silent you are still communicating through your posture and facial expressions.

Being aware of what contributes to help non-verbal communication, body language, gesture, etc. Will help you develop confidence , trust and rapport between you and other people. This includes:

👌 open body language and gestures
👌 Facial expressions
👌 An appropriate distance between you
👌 Avoid fidgeting when listening or speaking
👌 Establishing eye contact
👌 Standing straight with your feet apart, your shoulders relaxed, and your head held level makes you look sure of yourself
👌 Practice your handshake
👌 Smile. Smiling directly influences how other people respond to you. 💋

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

What To Do In Your 40s

I have been reading this emails recently from Jeff Henderson, he is the author of What to do Next, an excellent book you should read. I’m going to share with you some information on what to do in your forties just because it applies to me as well, but I will be sharing with you what to do in your 20s and 30s and 50s in the next few days.

If you are in this season of your life here is what you should do in your 40s:

  1. Provide an Annual Financial Report for your family. This include an update on any investments, account numbers and passwords, who to contact and suggestions on what to do with each investment. “A wise an loving husband prepares his wife to be a widow.” This may sound depressing but it is very wise.
  2. Continue to think of yourself as an athlete, and keep training. Most people who played sports stopped seeing themselves as athletes when their athletic career stopped. We still in the most important game of all- the game of life. Keep training. This not only impacts you physically, it benefits you mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
  3. Read the book of proverbs. Regardless about what you think of the Bible. Proverbs is a treasure trove of wisdom. There is priceless guidance there for you to use for your second half of life.
  4. Read more. Watch less.
  5. Review your insurance policy annually
  6. Leave a paper trail . Write one handwritten note a week to each member of your family, thanking and encouraging them for being in your life.
  7. Colonoscopy. This and other assessments annually.
  8. Consider a side hustle. This isn’t for everyone but a side hustle can often be a pathway to your future.
  9. Establish a healthy morning routine. A great day begins the night before. Instead of scattered approach to the day, define a morning routine that sets you up for success.
  10. Increase the percentage of money that you are saving and giving away. If you are at 10% for each, aim for 11%. Also if you have kids and haven’t started a college education savings plan, its better late than never.

I hope this helps you in some way .♡

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

How to take ownership of your dream


1. Be willing to bet on yourself. You may succeed if nobody else
believes in you, but you will never succeed if you don’t believe in
yourself.


2. Lead your life instead of accepting your life – making the right
decisions and managing those decisions daily. The power of choice
is the greatest power that a person possesses.


3. Love what you do and do what you love. Successful people – those
who see and seize their dreams – love what they do and do what
they love. They allow their passion and talent to guide them.


4. Don’t compare yourself or your dream to others – when you
compare yourself with those superior, you feel inferior. When you compare yourself with those inferior, you feel superior. When you stop comparing yourself with others, you feel empowered. Success
is doing that best you can with what you have wherever you start in
life.


5. Believe in your vision for the future even when others don’t
understand you. You are not an accident. You are here for a reason.

God Bless,

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Cuanto Tiempo

Si tan sólo supieran cuánto tiempo, esfuerzo, miedo y lágrimas me costó volver a reconstruirme, entonces entenderían porque ahora tengo mayor cuidado al elegir quien entra en mi vida y quien no. Hay personas que no les importa destrozarnos el alma, por ello debemos cuidarnos.

You are capable of far more than you know

Confidence leads to action and action leads to to greater confidence. Making smart decisions up front makes the path smoother overall. Bold moves leads to stellar destinations. We as women have a tendency to underestimate our own potential. You are capable far more than you know. You have to believe that. Stop underestimating yourself. When you do, you will begin communicating your openness to a better life. In your relationships,  your career, finances and even your health. Your faith will expand and so will your success.

“The most successful people make wise decisions early in life and manage those decisions for the rest of their lives.” I will never forget the first time I heard this from expert John Maxwell and it stuck with me. Whether in your relationships, career, financial abilities,  health and fitness habits or spiritual journey,  starting strong makes the rest of your path easier. your internal beliefs about yourself directly influence your external success.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent

Los líderes no pueden devaluarte sin tu permiso. Tienes valor. Cada persona lo tiene. Tienes talentos y habilidades que pueden agregar valor a los demás. Tienes recursos y oportunidades que nadie más tienen. La Primera Dama Michelle Obama explicó: “Una de las lecciones con las que crecí fue siempre ser fiel a uno mismo y nunca dejar que lo que digan los demás lo distraiga de sus objetivos. Cuando escucho sobre ataques negativos y falsos, realmente no invierto cualquier energía en ellos, porque sé quién soy”. Si sabe quién es y adopta un enfoque proactivo de la vida, es menos probable que te sientas como una víctima. No puedes hacer todo, pero puedes hacer algunas cosas. No puedes evitar que los demás te traten mal, pero puedes decidir cómo responder.

Leaders cannot devalue you without your permission. You have value. Every person does. You have talents and skills that can add value to others. You have resources and opportunities that no-one else has.

First Lady Michelle Obama explained: “One of the lessons that I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals. When I hear about negative and false attacks, I really don’t invest any energy in them, because I know who I am.”

If you know who you are and you take a proactive approach to life, you are less likely to feel like a victim. You can’t do everything but you can do some things. You can’t prevent others from treating you poorly, but you can decide how to respond.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

I Speak Three Languages, Body, Spanish and English

Your body language just doesn’t just affect how other see you. It affects how you see yourself.

Small tweaks in your posture and appearance can mean big changes in your love life, your career, and your bank account.

Becoming more attractive is easier and less superficial than you think.

According to multiple studies, positive emotion expands your ability to deal with adversity and stress. It broadens your scope of thinking, meaning that you make better decisions after experiencing a boost of positive emotion.

You are also more likely to engage in healthy behaviors such as exercise. Those who experience more positive emotion over time are more likely to get promoted, obtain a raise, and find themselves in a strong , lasting marriage.

Understanding the power of your body language is about much more than controlling your image and how other people feel about you. It is also controlling how you feel about you and what you think. What you think is what you become.

Appearance is a language of its own. And like any other language, you must learn to speak it well in order to communicate successfully.

Our brains are always on the lookout for cues. Is this person trustworthy? Are they credible? Are they out to get me? Should I spend the finite amount of time I have on my calendar with them? Should I invest my resources here? To answer those questions, we must begin somewhere. And the easiest place to start is with what we see.

As much as we’d like to believe that looks don’t matter , they do. Putting effort into your appearance yields results that influence people’s decisions about you.

APPEARANCE CAN BUILD YOUR CREDIBILITY OR DISMANTLE IT.

When trying to influence others, consider whether your appearance builds a bridge to your goal or a detour from it.

What story your appearance tell about you? Since we are talking about how successful women speak differently, it is a reasonable question to ask: “What exactly does your appearance speak of you?”

Your appearance is a form of communication. So ask yourself. What does my appearance communicate to those around me, at work, in social settings, at church, and in my community? Is that the message I want to communicate, or is it time for some tweaks and changes?

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Kkoaching Business And Leadership

Sometimes you have to fail miserably to be forced onto the right path. Sometimes an intense struggle isn’t God’s way of teaching you something,  but rather God’s way of telling you that you are moving in the wrong direction.  Rather than forcing something that doesn’t fit or beating yourself up because you are not good enough, why not ask this question? Is it possible that there is a better path for me? One that aligns with my unique gifts and strengths? And if so, what is it? You must find the right place for you.  Whether in your career or relationships, the place that looks impressive to everyone else may not be the right place for you. A good place is not the same as the right place. If you are moving in the wrong direction,  be humble and willing to change the course. In what ways are you forcing something to happen that simply is not a good fit? In what ways does pride or caring too much about what other think  keep you moving in a direction that is not meant for you? What new direction might it be time to embrace?

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

All I want is Time

Yesterday I got hit whit someone in pain that left me a list of complains she had about another person. It literally took 15 mins or so for me to listen to this person without interruption.  After actively listening to this person for straight 15 minutes all it took me to ask was this question,  what is it that you want out of this person? The answer which I already knew was, TIME. I want this person to give me TIME. There was silence. When problems arise, resilient people determine what is within their control to fix and go about their business.  In a world sometimes filled with negativity and complaining, it can be tempting at times to complain for the sake of complaining.  Instead use your complaints about your life as an opportunity to improve your life. “What could be done about it?” What request or change could I make to eliminate this complaint from my life? I have found that complaining without taking action to do something about it is very disempowering- not to mention unproductive.  When you stop having problems and start solving them , your life becomes more productive,  joyful and powerful.  We spent sometimes focusing on how to make that request of time more effective without complaining. 

**Complaints often indicate that an expectation or need is not being met.**

Have you been cleared about your expectations? Have you voiced your dissatisfaction and requested a specific change or solution? Until you do, you may find yourself stuck with the same complaints indefinitely.

God Bless,

Jani