Tag: #communication

Influence

Influence is a choice. Influence is like a candle. When lit, it makes everything brighter and better. Unlit, nothing positive happens. Who lit their candle for you?🧨 Light your candle and make things better for others.🌜🌝🌛☀️🌞

You light your candle when you care for others. “Let no one come to you without leaving better and happier.”😊🥰😇

You light your candle when you help others.👨‍👩‍👧🫂👩‍👧👨‍👧 Your Influence will be a plus or a minus in the lives of others.
🗣Say something positive to a person the first thirty seconds you are with them.

😚😉😊Compliment people in front of others. Everyone likes a compliment.

🤝🏨⏳ Be the first to help. The first person to offer a helping hand is always remembered.

↔️📋✏Encouragement is oxygen for the soul. Everyone does better when encouraged.

👂🦻🤎Listen with your heart ❤.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

What To Do In Your 40s

I have been reading this emails recently from Jeff Henderson, he is the author of What to do Next, an excellent book you should read. I’m going to share with you some information on what to do in your forties just because it applies to me as well, but I will be sharing with you what to do in your 20s and 30s and 50s in the next few days.

If you are in this season of your life here is what you should do in your 40s:

  1. Provide an Annual Financial Report for your family. This include an update on any investments, account numbers and passwords, who to contact and suggestions on what to do with each investment. “A wise an loving husband prepares his wife to be a widow.” This may sound depressing but it is very wise.
  2. Continue to think of yourself as an athlete, and keep training. Most people who played sports stopped seeing themselves as athletes when their athletic career stopped. We still in the most important game of all- the game of life. Keep training. This not only impacts you physically, it benefits you mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
  3. Read the book of proverbs. Regardless about what you think of the Bible. Proverbs is a treasure trove of wisdom. There is priceless guidance there for you to use for your second half of life.
  4. Read more. Watch less.
  5. Review your insurance policy annually
  6. Leave a paper trail . Write one handwritten note a week to each member of your family, thanking and encouraging them for being in your life.
  7. Colonoscopy. This and other assessments annually.
  8. Consider a side hustle. This isn’t for everyone but a side hustle can often be a pathway to your future.
  9. Establish a healthy morning routine. A great day begins the night before. Instead of scattered approach to the day, define a morning routine that sets you up for success.
  10. Increase the percentage of money that you are saving and giving away. If you are at 10% for each, aim for 11%. Also if you have kids and haven’t started a college education savings plan, its better late than never.

I hope this helps you in some way .♡

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Cómo construir y mantener la confianza

Cómo construir y mantener la confianza Entonces, ¿cómo “llenas el depósito”, mueves la aguja en tu medidor de confianza personal y mantienes un “tanque lleno”?

Generar confianza es una función de nuestra acción, y aquí hay cuatro formas en que puedes generar y mantener la confianza:


1. Sea fiel al carácter: diga la verdad, haga lo que dice que va a hacer (sea confiable), haga un trabajo de alta calidad y asegúrese de que sus acciones estén en línea con los valores de tu vida. Esta es la base de la confianza.

2. Vive la regla de oro: sé respetuoso con los demás, amable, considerado y muestra un interés genuino por los demás. Trata a los demás como te gustaría que te trataran a ti y observa cómo florece la confianza en esas relaciones.

3. Comunicate de manera efectiva: sea abierto al comunicar compromisos, demoras, expectativas, intenciones y motivos, y la claridad generará y mantendrá la confianza de manera inherente.

4. Obtenga y aplique el poder del conocimiento: cuando buscas un especialista médico, ¿buscas al médico que sabe más y tiene el nivel de habilidad más alto? Lo mismo es cierto contigo: los demás confiarán más en ti si saben que estás mejorando constantemente tu conjunto de habilidades y esforzándote por ser el mejor en lo que haces. Esfuércese por ser el mejor en lo que hace al obtener y aplicar constantemente nuevos conocimientos, y las personas tendrán una mayor confianza en tu conjunto de habilidades.


¡Practica estos cuatro principios de líderes altamente exitosos y observa cómo se llena tu medidor de confianza y tu reserva de confianza! Eso se está convirtiendo en lo mejor de ti.

Janitza Rivera
Executive Business Coach, Speaker & TrainerKkoaching Business and Leadership

www.my-authenticity.blog

www.johnmaxwellgroup.com/janitzarivera

Initiative

Leaders must show initiative.  They most always look for opportunities and be ready to take action.
There are four qualities that leaders possess and these qualities enable them to make things happen.

1. They know what they want: If you are going to be an effective leader,  you’ve got to know what you want. That’s the only way you’ll recognize opportunity when it comes.
2. They push themselves to act: Initiators do not wait for other people to motivate them.
3. They take more risks: Proactive people always take risks. One of the reasons good leaders are willing to take risks is that they recognize there is a price for not initiating too.
4. They make more mistakes: The good thing about initiators is that they make things happen.  Even though initiating leaders experience more failure,  they don’t let it bother them.

Are you an initiator? Are you constantly on the lookout for opportunity,  or do you just wait for it to come to you?

“Even the right desicion is the wrong desicion if it is made too late.”

Former Chrysler Chairman Lee Iacocca

To Be Compassionate, Be Present

Your undivided attention makes communication easier.
Warmth,  trust, power, and passion cannot happen without presence.
Your spirit can’t fake passion.  Your voice and body will alert the world.

To be compassionate,  be present.  Be with the person you are talking to, not just physically but mindfully. 

Compassion says “I care.”

When you are not fully present, even if you try your best to pretend you are, it shows. There is really no way to hide it. When your mind is elsewhere and you are mulling over your to do list while feigning attentiveness to the person who is speaking to you, your facial expressions will be slightly delayed. Even though you are looking directly into the eyes of the other person,  your eyes might even glaze over.

*If you want to be effective in your communication,  be the person who is present*

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

You are capable of far more than you know

Confidence leads to action and action leads to to greater confidence. Making smart decisions up front makes the path smoother overall. Bold moves leads to stellar destinations. We as women have a tendency to underestimate our own potential. You are capable far more than you know. You have to believe that. Stop underestimating yourself. When you do, you will begin communicating your openness to a better life. In your relationships,  your career, finances and even your health. Your faith will expand and so will your success.

“The most successful people make wise decisions early in life and manage those decisions for the rest of their lives.” I will never forget the first time I heard this from expert John Maxwell and it stuck with me. Whether in your relationships, career, financial abilities,  health and fitness habits or spiritual journey,  starting strong makes the rest of your path easier. your internal beliefs about yourself directly influence your external success.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

How Do You Know A Relationship Is Broken and How Can You Save It?

How can you tell a relationship has become broken? These are the most common signs:

1. It’s hard to have an honest conversation. When relationships are in trouble, it becomes difficult to have a normal, honest conversation.

2. There is a lack of trust. When relationships begin to break down , suspicion creeps in.

3. There’s lack of passion to continue the relationship. Eventually the other person stops putting in any effort to build back the relationship or make it work.

When you see these signs you should try to repair the relationship.

1. Initiate fixing the relationship with them.

2. Give them the benefit of the doubt.

3. Be willing to walk the second mile.

4. Speak well of them afterward.

A lot of relationships are worth saving, but many can’t be saved. We have to be realistic about the relationship and do our best, but sometimes we have to accept that it can’t be saved. We have to learn to say to ourselves, It’s OK. I don’t need to keep this close relationship with this person anymore. Still value the person and let them go.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent

Los líderes no pueden devaluarte sin tu permiso. Tienes valor. Cada persona lo tiene. Tienes talentos y habilidades que pueden agregar valor a los demás. Tienes recursos y oportunidades que nadie más tienen. La Primera Dama Michelle Obama explicó: “Una de las lecciones con las que crecí fue siempre ser fiel a uno mismo y nunca dejar que lo que digan los demás lo distraiga de sus objetivos. Cuando escucho sobre ataques negativos y falsos, realmente no invierto cualquier energía en ellos, porque sé quién soy”. Si sabe quién es y adopta un enfoque proactivo de la vida, es menos probable que te sientas como una víctima. No puedes hacer todo, pero puedes hacer algunas cosas. No puedes evitar que los demás te traten mal, pero puedes decidir cómo responder.

Leaders cannot devalue you without your permission. You have value. Every person does. You have talents and skills that can add value to others. You have resources and opportunities that no-one else has.

First Lady Michelle Obama explained: “One of the lessons that I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals. When I hear about negative and false attacks, I really don’t invest any energy in them, because I know who I am.”

If you know who you are and you take a proactive approach to life, you are less likely to feel like a victim. You can’t do everything but you can do some things. You can’t prevent others from treating you poorly, but you can decide how to respond.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Is it time to stay or move on?

This was the best advise I have received in my life when you have to determine if it is time to stay or move on.

This is a decision you have to make after you meet with your leader. Will you stay or will you go? May be your leader says he will change. If that turns out to be true, great. May be he says he will not change. Are you willing to live with that? May be the conversation you had with your leader did greater damage to the relationship. As someone once said: “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes is better to leave them broken than to hurt yourself trying to put them back together.” In the end you may not be able to change the people around you, but you can change the people you choose to be around.

If you are still having a hard time trying to decide whether to stay or go, ask yourself this question: If I weren’t already working here, knowing what I know now, would I want to become part of this organization? If the answer is no, it’s time to go. If the answers is “I don’t know” ask yourself again in six months. If the answer is yes, stay and learn how to work with your leader.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Kkoachingbusiness@gmail.com

When You Care. Show It.

There are people who do great work around you everyday. when you care, show it. Don’t hesitate or put it off until next week. Do something this week or even today. Things as simple as a greeting card  or something else inexpensive,  yet meaningful,  that sums up how you feel are all you need to make an impact and strengthen a relationship.

Janitza Rivera Executive Business Coach