What is Disappointment?

Disappointment is the feeling of loss; the sadness that occurs when your expectations or hopes fails to materialize.

Have you ever been disappointed? Even if you try to forget about it, disappointment can hover at the front of your mind and niggel at the back.

One thing I would like for you to remember is that with disappointment you really need to sit with it; to experience the feeling.

Some of us are not very good at fully experiencing disappointment without trying to speed up the process.

If you are going through a disappointment I would suggest for you to acknowledge what you are feeling and take your time. What you are feeling is OK. Take some time to just sit with disappointment and experience it without burying it or moving to fix or change it.

If you can give yourself some time and space to experience your feelings of disappointment, it becomes easier to accept; to acknowledge that what has happened has happened and nothing can change that.

In order to let go and move on, you need to focus on your next move, ✨️ on something positive ✨️

It’s an emotionally intelligent person who realizes that their continued feelings of disappointment are getting them nowhere. You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically.

It is possible to find something positive in almost every disappointing situation 🙃.

If you identify and then focus on the good things, not only will you find it easier to accept what you have already lost, you’ll have opened up your mind to new opportunities.

Any person who has succeeded or achieved something in life has faced some disappointments. They learned from their disappointments and move forward- sometimes in a different direction.

Share your feelings. Seek out a supportive friend, family member, or colleague who will sympathize, emphatize, and may offer a different way of looking at the situation.

God bless,

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

The Choices You Make, Make You

Every time I do training or a group training I pray for direction. I pray for wisdom, experience and good knowledge of the words that are going to come out of my mouth. I want my knowledge to get through at least one person. My goal is always to be able to impact everyone, but I also understand that some people are not ready to receive the message. Some are not ready to hear me to the level I need to be heard. Some are not even ready to try to process what I am saying, and some simply don’t care.

As I was doing team training about the choices you make, make you this past week, my intentions were for people to understand a few things.

“Successful people make right decisions early and manage those desicions daily. ”

It is so important to know that What we do on some great occasion will probably depend on what we already are: and what we are will be the result of previous years of self discipline. Choices are the most determining factor in how our lives turn out. There is always a choice you have to make in everything you do. So keep in mind that at the end, the Choice you make, make you.

Some people make their lives difficult by making the wrong choices, others move through life easier because of the good choices they’ve made.

I had to let go some people in the past just because they can’t commit to come to work on time. Why is it that the young generation has the mentality that they can come to work at the time they want. Some even think it is Ok to not come to work every time something very minor happens. Something like a minor headache, a minor cold, or personal issues? It is overwhelming to see this, but then how are you able to manage life? Seriously, that’s something very important to pause and think about.

Regardless of which road a person takes, we dont always get what we want, but we always get what we choose.

Keep in mind that the choices you make impact not only you and your family but many others. Once you choose, you become a servant of that choice. You must deal with its consequences, for better or worse. And that has an impact on you.

What major choices have changed your life?

I shared with my group when I left my family, my country, and my friends to come to the United States at ge 17. Not only was the only one that said that, but I had a few other people who said the same. Some moved to a different state and others just different towns, but the impact was the same. To some that is a major choice that changed their lives.

Always having the high standards for ourselves is 10 times more important than allowing others to set them up for ourselves. I always evaluate my efforts and feel good about myself. That’s why I have always set my standards high for myself. Even though this was part of my upbringing, I always strive to do better and I want my team to always strive to do better. I shared with them my experiences in my career because we are in a field where we are helping people. Always helping people is more important than making them feel happy.

Helping my team to get better is more important to me than to make them happy. When I set high standards, when I tell truth, when I make them work harder, it is because I care and I want them to reach their potential. I always expect them to sacrifice for the team and the patients. I do make desicions that they disagree with, I attempt to move them out of their comfort zone, and I do give some people more attention than others. Every day as a leader, I will make someone unhappy.

Are you prepared to make difficult choices?. My team answered yes. I hope they are correct. Because preparing yourself for making difficult decisions comes with a lot of desicion making in your life, I also believe the best way to prepare yourself is by working through many of them ahead of time. Being prepared is half the battle.

God bless,

Janitza Rivera Executive Business Coach

Un dia a la vez…

Cuando perdemos un ser querido las heridas emocionales surgen, dejando una huella duradera en nuestra alma. Hay cicatrices internas que se forman cuando experimentamos un profundo dolor emocional. 💔
✍️ Un dia a la vez, es importante sentir y procesar tus emociones.
✍️ Un dia a la vez es no sentirte presionado a ocultar tus sentimientos, en cambio date el espacio para llorar, expresar tu dolor y hablar sobre tus recuerdos.
✍️ Un dia a la vez No estas solo en tu dolor.
✍️ Un dia a la vez es cuidar de ti mismo, y es sumamente esencial durante este proceso. Duerme lo suficiente, come de manera saludable, y busca actividades que brinden alegria y distracciòn. Como ir a gym, hacer actividades con mi hija, ir a la iglesia…
✍️ Un dia a la vez crea rituales de despedida significativas que pueden ayudarte a honrar la memorial de tu ser querido.
✍️ Un dia a la vez unete con un grupo de apoyo o personas que esten pasando por lo mismo, esto puede ser reconfortante.
✍️ Un dia a la vez comparte historias y consejos que pueden ayudarte a sentirte menos solo en tu viaje de sanación. Me ayudo tanto escribir cartas de sanacion a mis amistades que estaban pasando por lo mismo o pasaron por mi misma situacion. Eso te ayuda a seguir sanando.
✍️ Un dia a la vez recuerda que este proceso es único para cada individuo y tomarte el tiempo necesario para sanar es sumamente fundamental. No dejes que nadie dicte tu sanacion.

💕 Un dia a la vez sigo sanando las heridas de la muerte de mis padres. Hace un años y esto es sumamente un dia a la vez…

God bless 🙌

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach