Let's Be Real Authentic with Janitza

The only person that can make you happy is you. Happiness is not out there. It is not something that you reach by gaining something.  It is within yourself.

Our attitude determine our approach to life. Our attitude sets up how we will approach our life each and every day and it will set up how others will approach us.

Our attitude determines our relationship with people.  Everything in your life is impacted by your relationship with people.  You have to understand that you can’t be consistently successful without the help of other people.  That’s  why is so essential to build proper relationships with others in this very crowded world.
The money you make is determined by 12.5% of your knowledge and 85.5% your ability to deal with people. 

Our attitude determines our relationship with people and you have to figure out a way to deal with people in a way is conducive for your success.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

☆ Read “Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life” by Arthur Brooks.

☆ Interview your parents on video.
If you’re blessed to still have your parents, I would recommend you interview them on video. Do you know how valuable this video is now?

☆ Select a younger person and mentor them.

☆ Flip it around, and ask that same younger leader to mentor you.
There’s a lot younger folks can teach us, starting with technology.

☆ Write down 10 lessons you’ve learned in your life.
What would you want your grandchildren to learn from what you’ve learned in life, good and bad? You know a lot more than you think you do. Write it down. It doesn’t have to be well-written. It just needs to be from you.

☆ Work more efficiently so you can live more effectively.
For example, would it be possible to take off every Friday afternoon at Noon for the rest of your career?

☆ Evaluate your life insurance policies.
(And get an annual physical.)

☆ Increase the percentage of money you save and give away with each passing year.

☆ Let go of regrets. We all have them. You did your best with what you knew and with what you have. Let go. Don’t carry regrets into your 60s. This might require some internal work with a therapist.

☆Increase, not decrease, the time you invest in exercise.
The same is true with your nutrition. Don’t let this slide just because you’re in your 50s.

☆ Be aware of Contempt.
The Gottman Institute on Relationships teaches that contempt is what undermines most marriages. Contempt is often delivered in tone or body language. It can happen the more we are around one another. As the old saying goes, “Familiarity breeds contempt.” This can settle in around your 50s if you aren’t careful. The antidote is appreciation and gratitude. Specifically, look for things to appreciate and choose to express gratitude for your spouse. Watch your tone and body language. Don’t let contempt undermine your marriage and key relationships.

☆ Take a risk.
As Clint Eastwood said, “Don’t let the old person win.” Yes, we need to be wise but we don’t need to be afraid. Try something new. Keep learning and growing.
The older we get, the less risks we tend to take. It actually should be the opposite. It’s called growth.

🤎 Don’t stop. Keep moving forward.

This is what I do behind the scenes: I take care of my super active 4 years old child, I read, I clean and while I clean I re-clean (not sure if that is even a word)but is true haha!, I cook and pre-cook for the week, I talk to my family everyday, I’m in the middle of planning my brother’s birthday shhhh🤫, I talk to my close friends at least 2x a week if no more, I do dishes, I do laundry, I do interview potential employees, I look at resumès, I prepare myself for my weekly coaching meetings, I do trainings. I do my nails and my hair, I go swimming and on dates with Keyani and my friends, I spend endless hours on the phone, I’m always greeting people, I’m always scheduling and rescheduling, I exercise, and lastly I do schedule time for myself so I can relax. Tell me what do you do? I would love to hear and so you know you are not alone.♡

God Bless,

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

1. Reduce financial debt every year in your 30s. The goal should be to enter your 40s with less debt than when you entered your 30s.
   2.Stay consistent and go deep with 3 – 4 strong friendships. In his excellent book “Strength to Strength,” Arthur Brook cites research that says one of the top regrets later in life is looking back and realizing we often sacrificed friendships for work. This usually begins in our 30s due to the growing demands of our career and family. I’m not suggesting you shouldn’t have more than four friends. What I’m suggesting is go deep with 3 – 4 friends now in order to hit your 40s and beyond with meaningful friendships.
2. Get life insurance.
3. Get your will done.
4. Take a calculated risk. Our 30s is the decade when we start settling down, and that’s not a bad thing. But too often we can choose comfort over growth.
5. Try something new with your fitness. If you’re not a runner, sign up for a 5k. If you’ve never done a triathlon, sign up for a sprint triathlon. If you’ve never played pickle ball or golf or taken a spin class — you get the point. Try something new in your 30s and see if it sticks. If not, no problem. You tried something new.
6. Stretch, stretch, stretch. This is one of my big regrets. I should have stretched more. Make mobility and flexibility a part of your daily routine, even if it’s just stretching for 5 minutes a day.
7. Don’t ‘should’ on yourself. Our 30s is when we start thinking, “I should be further along by now.” “I should be married by now.” “I should have written that book by now.” Don’t worry about where you’re not. Focus on making progress where you are. Also, stop comparing yourself to others. That’s often where “should” starts.
8. Find a therapist and start meeting monthly. Your 30s is actually your fourth decade on the planet. You’ve been through a lot. It’s helpful to process with someone who is a professional. Also, counseling doesn’t mean something is wrong. It means you’re human.
9. Find a faith community.
10. Prioritize Quarterly Retreats. If you’re married, this is a great idea to do with your spouse. If you’re not, this is still a great idea. Getting away every 90 days, reflecting on what went well, what didn’t and what adjustments you should make is very important.
11. Meet with a financial advisor. Topics like retirement plans, college savings funds — yes, you’ve arrived at this stage in life — are signs it’s time to get some professional, financial help.
12. Read at least one book a month.
13. Build your personal network by at least 12 people a year.

God Bless,

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach