Category: Training

What is Disappointment?

Disappointment is the feeling of loss; the sadness that occurs when your expectations or hopes fails to materialize.

Have you ever been disappointed? Even if you try to forget about it, disappointment can hover at the front of your mind and niggel at the back.

One thing I would like for you to remember is that with disappointment you really need to sit with it; to experience the feeling.

Some of us are not very good at fully experiencing disappointment without trying to speed up the process.

If you are going through a disappointment I would suggest for you to acknowledge what you are feeling and take your time. What you are feeling is OK. Take some time to just sit with disappointment and experience it without burying it or moving to fix or change it.

If you can give yourself some time and space to experience your feelings of disappointment, it becomes easier to accept; to acknowledge that what has happened has happened and nothing can change that.

In order to let go and move on, you need to focus on your next move, ✨️ on something positive ✨️

It’s an emotionally intelligent person who realizes that their continued feelings of disappointment are getting them nowhere. You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically.

It is possible to find something positive in almost every disappointing situation 🙃.

If you identify and then focus on the good things, not only will you find it easier to accept what you have already lost, you’ll have opened up your mind to new opportunities.

Any person who has succeeded or achieved something in life has faced some disappointments. They learned from their disappointments and move forward- sometimes in a different direction.

Share your feelings. Seek out a supportive friend, family member, or colleague who will sympathize, emphatize, and may offer a different way of looking at the situation.

God bless,

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

ASSERTIVENESS

LA ASERTIVIDAD es una parte inherente de ser emocionalmente inteligente; La ASERTIVIDAD es una cualidad permanente e inseparable de la Inteligencia Emocional.
Así como la Inteligencia Emocional se ocupa de poder identificar y gestionar tus sentimientos, ser asertivo también implica identificar y gestionar tus sentimientos. De manera directa, honesta y apropiada.
LA ASERTIVIDAD implica expresar tus sentimientos, pensamientos, opiniones, necesidades y deseos. Cuando eres asertivo, eres capaz de defenderte a pesar de los miedos y la ansiedad que puedas sentir.
Cuando eres asertivo, animas a los demás a ser abiertos y honestos acerca de sus puntos de vista y sentimientos. Esto ayuda a crear y desarrollar empatía y comprensión mutua. Y eso es Inteligencia Emocional.
Ser asertivo es una forma de comunicarse y comportarse. Para desarrollar tu Inteligencia Emocional, es útil ser consciente de otras formas de comportarte y comunicarte; agresivo, pasivo y pasivo agresivo. Cada forma de comportarse y comunicarse tiene un sentimiento particular asociado y puede encontrarse con diferentes respuestas.
Por otro lado, cuando eres asertivo, eres consciente de los sentimientos, necesidades y deseos; propio y ajeno.

ASSERTIVENESS is an inherent part of being emotionally intelligent; ASSERTIVENESS is a permanent and inseparable quality of emotional Intelligence.

Just as emotional Intelligence is concerned with being able to identify and manage your feelings, being assertive also involves identifying and managing your feelings. In direct, honest, and appropriate ways.

ASSERTIVENESS involves expressing your feelings, thoughts, opinions, needs, and wants. When you are assertive, you are able to stand up for yourself despite any fears and anxiety you might be feeling.

When you are assertive, you encourage others to be open and honest about their views and feelings. This helps create and develop empathy and mutual understanding. And that’s Emotional Intelligence.

Being assertive is one way to communicate and behave. To develop your emotional intelligence, it’s helpful to be aware of other ways of behaving and communicating; aggressive, passive, and passive aggressive. Each way of behaving and communicating cone with particular feelings attach to it and may be met with different responses.

In other hand, when you are assertive, you are aware of feelings, needs and wants; your own, and other people’s.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Lindo Fin De Semana

Si quieres más, debes convertirte en más: más hábil, más dotado, más preparado, más centrado.

Tienes que ser más de lo que eres para conseguir más de lo que tienes.

La buena noticia es que puedes llegar a ser más.

Pero tienes que ser ambicioso (en el buen sentido) y testarudo (en el buen sentido) 🙂

Olvídate del conformismo. Tú eres valioso. Ve por ello.

Recuerda que No es lo que tienes; es en quién te conviertes persiguiendo tu destino.

Todo lo que necesitas para progresar, lo creas o no, está justo delante de ti.

La vida es como un videojuego; todos los recursos que necesitas para pasar al siguiente nivel y convertirte en una mejor versión de ti mismo están en la pantalla del juego al que estás jugando.

Incluso tus problemas son recursos.

Ese problema con el que estás luchando es una herramienta.

Sólo aprendes de la experiencia. Y dentro de cualquier problema al que te enfrentes hay una valiosa lección que debes aprender.

Puedes tener más de lo que tienes porque puedes llegar a ser más de lo que eres. – Jim Rohn

God bless,

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Influence

Influence is a choice. Influence is like a candle. When lit, it makes everything brighter and better. Unlit, nothing positive happens. Who lit their candle for you?🧨 Light your candle and make things better for others.🌜🌝🌛☀️🌞

You light your candle when you care for others. “Let no one come to you without leaving better and happier.”😊🥰😇

You light your candle when you help others.👨‍👩‍👧🫂👩‍👧👨‍👧 Your Influence will be a plus or a minus in the lives of others.
🗣Say something positive to a person the first thirty seconds you are with them.

😚😉😊Compliment people in front of others. Everyone likes a compliment.

🤝🏨⏳ Be the first to help. The first person to offer a helping hand is always remembered.

↔️📋✏Encouragement is oxygen for the soul. Everyone does better when encouraged.

👂🦻🤎Listen with your heart ❤.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

What To Do In Your 20s

  1. Release yourself from the pressure of trying to discover the plan for the rest of your life. Much of life is out of your control. What is in your control is to figure out what to do next.
  2. Show up on time. Do your very best where you are. Honor and serve people well.
  3. Move in the direction of your strengths. If I were to ask you what your Top Five Strengths are, would you know?
  4. Don’t place too much value on what a college admission board thinks of you. I am all for college but whether you get into the right one or not won’t determine your fate or future.
  5. Don’t just say thank you. Write ✍ it. Write the people who help you a handwritten thank you note. Don’t limit this to your career either.
  6. Abhor financial debt. Your 20s is an opportunity to set up your 30s and your future with financial strength. A way to do this is to read one financial book a year.
  7. Do life with Iron-sharpeners. Iron sharpens Iron. So one person sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17 Do life with people who elevate your thinking and give you an example to follow.
  8. Develop a consistent exercise routine. Bad news, your body will give a rude awakening when you hit your 30s. Is better to develop that discipline now.
  9. Build your personal network. Who you know is often more important than what you know. Your personal network is tied to your personal net worth.
  10. Meet quarterly with an older, wiser mentor.
  11. Practice humility. Think of others first. Practice humility daily.
  12. Look up and around more than down. This is a reference to your technology use.

What to do next is an excellent read by Jeff Henderson. I love getting his weekly emails and love to be able to share them with others.

Que hacer a los 20s
1.De la presión de tratar de descubrir el plan para el resto de tu vida. Gran parte de la vida está fuera de tu control. Lo que está bajo tu control es averiguar qué hacer a continuación.
2. Preséntese a tiempo. Haz tu mejor esfuerzo donde estés. Honra y serve bien a la gente.
3. Muévete en la dirección de tus puntos fuertes. Si tuviera que preguntarle cuáles son sus cinco fortalezas principales, ¿lo sabría?
4. No le dé demasiado valor a lo que la junta de admisión a la universidad piensa de ti. Estoy completamente a favor de la universidad, pero si ingresas a la correcta o no, no determinará tu destino o futuro.
5. No se limite a decir gracias. Escríbelo ✍. Escribe a las personas que te ayudan una nota de agradecimiento escrita a mano. No limites esto a tu carrera tampoco.
6. Aborrece la deuda financiera. Tus 20 años son una oportunidad para configurar tus 30 y tu futuro con solidez financiera. Una forma de hacer esto es leer un libro financiero al año.
7. Vive la vida con afiladores de hierro. El hierro afila el hierro. Entonces una persona agudiza a otra. Proverbios 27:17 Haz la vida con personas que eleven tu pensamiento y te den ejemplo a seguir.
8. Desarrolle una rutina de ejercicio constante. Malas noticias, tu cuerpo tendrá un duro despertar cuando llegues a los 30. Es mejor desarrollar esa disciplina ahora.
9. Construya su red personal. A quién conoces suele ser más importante que lo que sabes. Su red personal está ligada a su valor neto personal.
Reúnete trimestralmente con un mentor mayor y más sabio.
10. Practica la humildad. Piensa primero en los demás. Practica la humildad a diario.
11. Mire hacia arriba y alrededor más que hacia abajo. Esta es una referencia a su uso de la tecnología.

Qué hacer a continuación es una excelente lectura de Jeff Henderson. Me encanta recibir sus correos electrónicos semanales y me encanta poder compartirlos con los demás.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

The First Impression Can Seal The Deal

Charisma, plainly stated, is the ability to draw people to you. And like other character traits, it can be developed. To make yourself the kind of person who attracts others, you need to personify these pointers:


1. Love life: People enjoy leaders who enjoy life. Think of the people you want to spend time with. How would you describe them? Grumpy? Bitter? Depressed? Of course not. They are celebrators, not complainers. They are passionate about life. If you want to attract people. You need to be like the people you enjoy being with.


2. One of the best things you can do for people-which also attracts them to you is to expect the best of them . If you appreciate others, encourage them, and help them reach their potential,  they will love you for it.


3. Give them hope: Hope is the greatest of all possessions.


4. Share yourself: People love leaders who share themselves and their life journey.  As you lead people, give yourself. Share wisdom, resources, and even special occasions.

When it comes to charisma, the bottom line is othermindedness. Leaders who think about others and their concerns before thinking of themselves exhibit charisma.

God Bless you,

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Initiative

Leaders must show initiative.  They most always look for opportunities and be ready to take action.
There are four qualities that leaders possess and these qualities enable them to make things happen.

1. They know what they want: If you are going to be an effective leader,  you’ve got to know what you want. That’s the only way you’ll recognize opportunity when it comes.
2. They push themselves to act: Initiators do not wait for other people to motivate them.
3. They take more risks: Proactive people always take risks. One of the reasons good leaders are willing to take risks is that they recognize there is a price for not initiating too.
4. They make more mistakes: The good thing about initiators is that they make things happen.  Even though initiating leaders experience more failure,  they don’t let it bother them.

Are you an initiator? Are you constantly on the lookout for opportunity,  or do you just wait for it to come to you?

“Even the right desicion is the wrong desicion if it is made too late.”

Former Chrysler Chairman Lee Iacocca

Start Small But BELIEVE Big

I hope you understand that we can’t get anywhere in life without taking that first small step. Sometimes the step is HARD; other times it’s easy. But no matter what you have to do it if you want to achieve big things.

You never know when something small that you do for others is going to expand into something big.

The thing here is that you need to start where you are. Opportunity is always where you are. Be willing to start by giving of yourself.

Start with your one thing. I believe everybody has one thing they do better than anything else. When you start on your one thing it will lead you to where you want to be.

Start watching your words. Words kill, words give life; they are either poison or fruit, you choose. What we say to ourselves either encourages us or discourages us. The words we need to embrace are positive, words such as, we, can, will, and yes. What do we need to eliminate? Me, can’t, won’t and no. Words have power. What kind of words do you use in your mind as you talk to yourself, out loud as you speak with others, and in your writing? Are they positive and encouraging? Do they encourage you to embrace a bigger vision? Or are they holding you back? Are they preventing you from doing small things that can ultimately make a big difference? Don’t tell yourself that what you can do doesn’t matter. It does.

Start by making small changes. Change can be difficult, but it becomes easier when you do it a little at a time. Try to change 5% a day by asking yourself a question, If I were 5 % more responsible today, what would I be able to do? This kind of thinking help us to embrace incremental change.

Believe big. If you don’t believe you can do something, guess what? You won’t. No matter how talented you are, how many opportunities you receive or how many resources you have at your fingertips. YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE .

🤚 Do you believe in yourself? Your belief will drive your behavior. You will never be more than how you see yourself. 🤚

God Bless,

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

People Quit People, Not Companies

How many have ever quit their job because of a bad leader or a bad relationship at work?


As a leader, we’d like to think that when people leave , it has little to do with us. But the reality is that we are often the reason. People usually quit their leaders. The “Company” doesn’t do anything negative to them. People do.

What kind of people do employees quit?

  1. People quit people who devalue them. It is impossible to add value to someone we devalue!. If we do not respect someone, we can’t treat them with respect. When leaders devalue their people they start to manipulate them.
  2. People quit people who are untrustworthy. Have you ever worked with people you couldn’t trust? It’s a terrible experience. Nobody likes to work with someone that they can’t rely on.
  3. People quit people who are incompetent. When leaders are incompetent, they become a distraction to the team. They waste people’s energy. They prevent people from keeping the main thing, the main thing.
  4. People quit people who are insecure. If the leader values people, possesses integrity, and displays competence, then people will be content to follow, right? No, even if leaders posses those three qualities, there still one characteristic that will drive people away from them. INSECURITY. Some insecure leaders are easy to spot. Their desire for power, position and recognition comes out in an obvious display of fear, suspicion, distrust or jealousy.

No matter how good of a leader you are, you will ocacionally lose people. That’s simply a part of leadership. However, you can do things to make yourself the kind of leader that other people wants to follow.

🤚 Contact me and I can help.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Are you ready for the next season of your life?

Make room for what you want:

  • What projects, issues, to do list item keeps getting rolled over to the next season?
  • what can you declutter in the next 15 mins? Stop putting in off for later
  • What ties need to be cut? Making room in your life often means letting go of stale or inauthentic connections.
    -What apology is over due? Do not go into a new season with old baggage. Depending on the situation, either forgive or ask for forgiveness.
  • How do I want this season to prepare for the next? The next season is already on its way . Is there anything you need to do now to prepare?

People who try new things are happier than people who always hold on to what’s familiar.

God Bless,

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach, Speaker and Trainer

http://www.johnmaxwellgroup.com/janitzarivera