Category: coaching

ASSERTIVENESS

LA ASERTIVIDAD es una parte inherente de ser emocionalmente inteligente; La ASERTIVIDAD es una cualidad permanente e inseparable de la Inteligencia Emocional.
Así como la Inteligencia Emocional se ocupa de poder identificar y gestionar tus sentimientos, ser asertivo también implica identificar y gestionar tus sentimientos. De manera directa, honesta y apropiada.
LA ASERTIVIDAD implica expresar tus sentimientos, pensamientos, opiniones, necesidades y deseos. Cuando eres asertivo, eres capaz de defenderte a pesar de los miedos y la ansiedad que puedas sentir.
Cuando eres asertivo, animas a los demás a ser abiertos y honestos acerca de sus puntos de vista y sentimientos. Esto ayuda a crear y desarrollar empatía y comprensión mutua. Y eso es Inteligencia Emocional.
Ser asertivo es una forma de comunicarse y comportarse. Para desarrollar tu Inteligencia Emocional, es útil ser consciente de otras formas de comportarte y comunicarte; agresivo, pasivo y pasivo agresivo. Cada forma de comportarse y comunicarse tiene un sentimiento particular asociado y puede encontrarse con diferentes respuestas.
Por otro lado, cuando eres asertivo, eres consciente de los sentimientos, necesidades y deseos; propio y ajeno.

ASSERTIVENESS is an inherent part of being emotionally intelligent; ASSERTIVENESS is a permanent and inseparable quality of emotional Intelligence.

Just as emotional Intelligence is concerned with being able to identify and manage your feelings, being assertive also involves identifying and managing your feelings. In direct, honest, and appropriate ways.

ASSERTIVENESS involves expressing your feelings, thoughts, opinions, needs, and wants. When you are assertive, you are able to stand up for yourself despite any fears and anxiety you might be feeling.

When you are assertive, you encourage others to be open and honest about their views and feelings. This helps create and develop empathy and mutual understanding. And that’s Emotional Intelligence.

Being assertive is one way to communicate and behave. To develop your emotional intelligence, it’s helpful to be aware of other ways of behaving and communicating; aggressive, passive, and passive aggressive. Each way of behaving and communicating cone with particular feelings attach to it and may be met with different responses.

In other hand, when you are assertive, you are aware of feelings, needs and wants; your own, and other people’s.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Posture

Estudios muestran; tu comunicación no verbal revela tus sentimientos y emociones más claramente que lo que dices.
Los gestos que haces, la forma en que te paras 🧍‍♀️ o te sientas, qué tan rápido o en voz alta hablas, qué tan cerca estás, tus expresiones faciales, todos envían fuertes mensajes sobre cómo te sientes.
Conscientemente o no, otras personas sacan conclusiones sobre tu actitud y emociones; Incluso si estás en silencio, todavía te estás comunicando a través de tu postura y expresiones faciales.
Ser consciente de lo que contribuye a ayudar a la comunicación no verbal, el lenguaje corporal, los gestos, etc. Te ayudará a desarrollar confianza y simpatía entre usted y otras personas. Esto incluye:
👌 lenguaje corporal y gestos abiertos
👌 Expresiones faciales
👌 Una distancia adecuada entre ustedes
👌 Evite inquietarse al escuchar o hablar
👌 Establecer contacto visual
👌 Estar de pie con los pies separados, los hombros relajados y la cabeza nivelada te hace lucir seguro de ti mismo.
👌 Practica tu apretón de manos
👌 Sonríe. Sonreír influye directamente en cómo te responden los demás. 💋

Research shows; your non-verbal communication reveals your feelings and emotions more clearly than what you say.

The gestures you make , the way you stand 🧍‍♀️ or sit, how fast or how loud you talk, how close your stand , your facial expressions, all send strong messages about how you are feeling.

Consciously or not, other people draw conclusions about your attitude and emotions; even if you are silent you are still communicating through your posture and facial expressions.

Being aware of what contributes to help non-verbal communication, body language, gesture, etc. Will help you develop confidence , trust and rapport between you and other people. This includes:

👌 open body language and gestures
👌 Facial expressions
👌 An appropriate distance between you
👌 Avoid fidgeting when listening or speaking
👌 Establishing eye contact
👌 Standing straight with your feet apart, your shoulders relaxed, and your head held level makes you look sure of yourself
👌 Practice your handshake
👌 Smile. Smiling directly influences how other people respond to you. 💋

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Lindo Fin De Semana

Si quieres más, debes convertirte en más: más hábil, más dotado, más preparado, más centrado.

Tienes que ser más de lo que eres para conseguir más de lo que tienes.

La buena noticia es que puedes llegar a ser más.

Pero tienes que ser ambicioso (en el buen sentido) y testarudo (en el buen sentido) 🙂

Olvídate del conformismo. Tú eres valioso. Ve por ello.

Recuerda que No es lo que tienes; es en quién te conviertes persiguiendo tu destino.

Todo lo que necesitas para progresar, lo creas o no, está justo delante de ti.

La vida es como un videojuego; todos los recursos que necesitas para pasar al siguiente nivel y convertirte en una mejor versión de ti mismo están en la pantalla del juego al que estás jugando.

Incluso tus problemas son recursos.

Ese problema con el que estás luchando es una herramienta.

Sólo aprendes de la experiencia. Y dentro de cualquier problema al que te enfrentes hay una valiosa lección que debes aprender.

Puedes tener más de lo que tienes porque puedes llegar a ser más de lo que eres. – Jim Rohn

God bless,

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

Disappointment

With disappointment you really do need to sit with it; to experience the feeling.

Some of us are not very good at fully experiencing disappointment without trying to speed up the process.🏃🏃.

What you are feeling is OK. 🧘‍♀️Take sometime to sit 🪑with disappointment and experience it without burying💊 it or moving to fix or change it.

If you can give some time and space to experience your feelings of disappointment, it becomes easier to accept; to acknowledge that what has happened has happened and nothing can change that.✍️

🗣 In order to let go and move on, you need to focus on your next move- on something positive.

It’s an emotional intelligent person who realizes that their continued feelings of disappointment 😞 are getting them nowhere. You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. 🚘

Optimist people are more likely to learn from disappointment. They also look for something positive about the situation.🤗

It is possible to find something positive in almost every disappointing🥺 situation.

When was that last time that you were disappointed? What lessons👩‍🎓 did you learn? Did you even stop ✋️to reflect on this?👆👆👆

💪💪 If you identify and then focus on the good things, not only you will find it easier to accept what you have already lost, you’ll have opened up your mind to new opportunities💪.

⭐️Any person who has succeeded or achieve something in life has faced some disappointments. They learned from their disappointments and move forward- sometimes in a different direction. ⭐️

Principio De Pareto

✍️A veces, la solución es más simple de lo que parece. Pero estamos tan agobiados que no la vemos. 👀

🫶 Por eso quiero compartirte este rápido método para que te replantees tu día a día, y mejores tu bienestar.

🧠Regla 80/20 o principio de Pareto.

🤔 Hazte estas preguntas

🥰 ¿Quiénes son el 20% de las personas con las que te sientes mejor el 80% del tiempo?

❤️ Empieza a visitarlas más.

🫀¿Qué actividades pertenecen al 20% de cosas que te aportan más valor, propósito y felicidad el 80% del tiempo?

❤️ Hazlas más.

O, si lo prefieres

😡¿Quiénes son el 20% de las personas con las que más discutes y que peor te hacen sentir el 80% del tiempo?

Empieza a verlas menos.🙃

😠¿Qué actividades pertenecen al 20% de cosas que te hacen sentir más angustia e infelicidad el 80% del tiempo?

Hazlas menos 😉

Te abrazo!

Tranquility

The tranquility will not come looking for you. You will have to fight to achieve it in an increasingly bustling and demanding world, in a culture that rushes to fill every second with sound, movement and rapid information. You’ll have to plan for it, set boundaries around yourself, and protect it from phone calls, television shows, and even your own impatience. You will be tempted to think that you will not be able to live without it, but it will join you with the rest of us who have to learn the hard way, through four-day cold circles under the eyes and fatigue on the weekends, which if we do not take care of taking things calmly, our bodies will do them for us. The simple truth is that the quiet moments spent with the Lord, the universe or whatever it is that you truly believe in, with His word and our hearts open before Him, will not demand much of us but will give us many things. They will always respond to us, the life of our days will always increase and most likely the days of our life will increase. Enjoy the blessings that peace of mind brings you.

I hug you strongly today.

Janitza Rivera,

Executive Business Coach

Evaluate Your Words

Words are so powerful and are designed to either build up or tear down. The power of words spoken by a parent can either make or break a child. Words are life changing and long lasting.

Use your words to encourage, inspire,  and motivate your child,  not discourage and disheartenen them. Have you ever noticed how someone can give you ten compliments and make one discouraging comment , and you will only remember the negative? Some adults are still suffering from the words a parent spoke into their lives when they were very young, but they have never forgotten.

Children love to please and they respond positively to encouragement and praise.

Remember that life and death is in the power of the tongue. Blessings and curses don’t come out of the same mouth. I can’t tell you how important your words are when you are raising children.

🤎 THE BEST TEACHINGS ARE BY EXAMPLE.  CHILDREN IMITATE WHAT THEY SEE MORE THAN WHAT THEY ARE TOLD.🤎

God bless,

Jani

Influence

Influence is a choice. Influence is like a candle. When lit, it makes everything brighter and better. Unlit, nothing positive happens. Who lit their candle for you?🧨 Light your candle and make things better for others.🌜🌝🌛☀️🌞

You light your candle when you care for others. “Let no one come to you without leaving better and happier.”😊🥰😇

You light your candle when you help others.👨‍👩‍👧🫂👩‍👧👨‍👧 Your Influence will be a plus or a minus in the lives of others.
🗣Say something positive to a person the first thirty seconds you are with them.

😚😉😊Compliment people in front of others. Everyone likes a compliment.

🤝🏨⏳ Be the first to help. The first person to offer a helping hand is always remembered.

↔️📋✏Encouragement is oxygen for the soul. Everyone does better when encouraged.

👂🦻🤎Listen with your heart ❤.

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach

What To Do In Your 40s

I have been reading this emails recently from Jeff Henderson, he is the author of What to do Next, an excellent book you should read. I’m going to share with you some information on what to do in your forties just because it applies to me as well, but I will be sharing with you what to do in your 20s and 30s and 50s in the next few days.

If you are in this season of your life here is what you should do in your 40s:

  1. Provide an Annual Financial Report for your family. This include an update on any investments, account numbers and passwords, who to contact and suggestions on what to do with each investment. “A wise an loving husband prepares his wife to be a widow.” This may sound depressing but it is very wise.
  2. Continue to think of yourself as an athlete, and keep training. Most people who played sports stopped seeing themselves as athletes when their athletic career stopped. We still in the most important game of all- the game of life. Keep training. This not only impacts you physically, it benefits you mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
  3. Read the book of proverbs. Regardless about what you think of the Bible. Proverbs is a treasure trove of wisdom. There is priceless guidance there for you to use for your second half of life.
  4. Read more. Watch less.
  5. Review your insurance policy annually
  6. Leave a paper trail . Write one handwritten note a week to each member of your family, thanking and encouraging them for being in your life.
  7. Colonoscopy. This and other assessments annually.
  8. Consider a side hustle. This isn’t for everyone but a side hustle can often be a pathway to your future.
  9. Establish a healthy morning routine. A great day begins the night before. Instead of scattered approach to the day, define a morning routine that sets you up for success.
  10. Increase the percentage of money that you are saving and giving away. If you are at 10% for each, aim for 11%. Also if you have kids and haven’t started a college education savings plan, its better late than never.

I hope this helps you in some way .♡

Janitza Rivera

Executive Business Coach