Author: Kkoaching Business And Leadership

As a John Maxwell Certified Coach, Teacher, Trainer and Speaker, I can offer you workshops, seminars, keynote speaking, and coaching, aiding your personal and professional growth through study and practical application of John’s proven leadership methods. Working together, I will move you and/or your team or organization in the desired direction to reach your goals. I am originally from Puerto Rico. I attended and graduated from Mary Baldwin College in 1999 with a bachelor’s degree in Sociology/Social Work and minor in Spanish. In 2015 I completed a Business Executive Power Program at MGE – Management Experts Inc. in Clearwater, Florida. At the same time, I also attended and completed the  Leadership School at MGE. I am a Certified Medical and Community Interpreter. I am very delighted to be able to help the Hispanic community in my area with their needs. In 2016 I was part of the Leadership Team at the American Cancer Society, and in 2017 I volunteered in a dental clinic in Haiti. I have been in the dental field for over twenty years. Educating our patients is very important to me as well as training our team. I love educating myself about leadership. In 2016 and 2017, I was chosen as Miss Virginia Woman of Achievement. Contact Me. I am looking forward to assisting you on your journey to becoming a successful leader. Janitza Rivera

A Day Spent in the Library. Why Reading is Important For Kids.

It is important to start at a young age and teach your child the value of reading so they will grow to practice it often and value their ability to do so.

Practice makes perfect. The more you read the better they get with their communication skills
Reading helps them gain independence and confidence.



Reading is essential to just about everything in life – from cooking to driving to just getting through school. It is important to start at a young age and teach your child the value of reading.
Reading enhances their imagination.
It leads to their future academic success.
Reading entertain them.
Learning another language when they are as little as possible is super important and necessary for their future.
The more you read to them, the more they are able to add more words in their vocabulary.

Vision Board

A vision board is a concrete representation of your desires and aspirations for a compelling life. They are fun to create and can serve as an invaluable tool to motivate and inspire you towards concrete daily action in pursuit of your biggest and most important life goal.

Tonight we started working on our vision board.

Here are the benefits of creating a vision board.

1.It makes your dreams clear
2. It creates a better intention
3. It makes you more creative
4. It gives you motivation
5. It makes you Productive
6. It gives you better focus
7. It increases your chances for success
8. It makes you positive and happy
9. It makes you more determined
10. It boost your self confidence
11. It relaxes you
12. It improves your self image
13. It grows your desire

When you create a vision board of the things that you want and place it where you can see often, you will essentially end up doing visualization whenever you see those pictures.

Whatever you want in your life, visualize it and create a vision board for it. No matter if it is a healthier body, a loving relationship, money, increase confidence, having a vacation in the Hawaii, or building a multi-million dollar business, you can greatly increase your chances of success through envisioning them with a vision board.

God Bless,

Jani

How to Manage Anger by skillpath.com

We’ve all witnessed road rage on our commutes to work. Your lane is ending and you slip over in front of that massive pickup truck only to have the driver riding your rear bumper for the next 11 miles, until he can whip around you almost taking off your front bumper.

And, of course, we all know what it feels like to be angry. But when that anger is explosive and uncontrolled, it can have negative effects on your work, relationships and health.

Wouldn’t it be better if you could choose how you respond when you’re angry rather than reacting?

Psychologists tell us that anger can be a mask for other emotions. So if you struggle with explosive anger, becoming more aware of your emotions before you explode is the key to gaining control of yourself. This takes conscious effort and practice.

Ways to begin controlling your anger:

  1. If you’re already steamed, pause before reacting. Count to 10 (or further if you’re still not calm). “Be careful with your words. Once they are said they can only be forgiven, not forgotten.” With this in mind, don’t respond until you have control of yourself. When you do respond, control your voice, your mannerisms and your words. Communicate your anger without ranting. Telling someone you’re angry is important, but can be accomplished without being out of control.
  2. Prepare for the future by becoming more aware of your feelings on a daily basis.Periodically pause to check your emotional state, suggests Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W forpscyhologytoday.com. Consider your mood. What are you feeling? Are you irritated, anxious, ignored, angry, worried, happy, enthusiastic, appreciated? What caused these feelings? Being more conscious of what you’re feeling enables you to stay in control. Learn to notice when you’re starting to feel annoyed and know how to step away to regain control of your emotions.
  3. When you begin to notice an increase in your negative emotions, do something before your feelings escalate. It’s easier to address concerns before they turn to rage. And taking early positive action helps you feel more in control. A colleague appears to dismiss your concerns regarding a new project. You’re certain there’s trouble ahead. You begin to feel frustrated and stressed because you know you’ll be the one picking up the pieces when things fall apart. But the co-worker waves off your worries as unfounded.
  • If you feel your anger rising in a situation like this, take a moment to assess your concerns objectively. “Is this particular situation truly a big deal? Or is it simply the last straw? If the colleague doesn’t know your feelings have been festering for weeks (or longer), any outburst by you will seem like an extreme reaction to them.
  • Ask yourself some questions as you assess. Is the colleague truly ignoring your warnings or is he simply trying to ease your worries? What are some steps you could take to address your concerns on the front end?
  • Write down the facts and organize your thoughts
  • Talk with the colleague calmly or email them in a factual, non-confrontational way. Keep your tone neutral. Make no assumptions about the other person’s motives. Speak in a positive, genuine, complimentary way. “Jim, I know you’re trying to stay upbeat and keep me from worrying, and I appreciate that. Help me think this through if you have a minute. I’ve made some estimates of what we’re up against and what’s happened in the past. Maybe together we can make sure this goes as planned.”
  • Force yourself to approach situations that normally anger you in a new way. (If colleagues are accustomed to you flying off the handle, it may take them a while to catch up to your new, more controlled approach. Be patient and consider apologizing for your previous behavior … to begin to turn things around.)
  • Assume the best from other people
  • Replace negative thinking with positive, more reasonable thoughts suggests mindtools.com. “Yes, I’m frustrated, but it’s not the end of the world.”
  • Don’t take things personally
  1. Take responsibility for your emotions and learn to relax and calm yourself. “Your anger makes it easy to blame others for making you feel that way, and to expect them to do something to make you feel better (like do what you want),” reminds Taibbi. But your emotions are your responsibility and you need to be able to calm yourself. Meditation, focused breathing, stepping away, counting and visualizing are all techniques people use to self-soothe. Experts suggest practicing these often to make them more effective when you really need them.

Anger is a valid emotion that can’t be eliminated. Taking time to truly understand your other negative emotions (frustration, fear, jealousy, disappointment, worry, disgust, etc.) helps you respond in a controlled, more effective way. Letting colleagues know of growing concerns, frustration or worry before it escalates will help keep anger from building, allowing you to stay in control.

I hope this help you if you have anger issues. Thanks SkillPath.com for sharing.

Jani-

How to be a good Manager by skillpath.com

I recently got into a conversation with my oldest son (32 yrs old) who is about five years into his management career. As he filled me in on some of the things going on at work, I noticed in his stories that he often has co-workers and other managers asking him for advice, picking his brain, and venting their problems to him as a confidante. It hit me that his mother and I must have done something right when he was growing up because my now-adult kid is an extremely approachable manager.

Think about the managers you’ve had in your life. Most were probably average to good, a couple were outstanding, and unfortunately, some were the human personification of the Ten Egyptian Plagues. This post is about those approachable bosses, the ones that are easy to talk with even when the subject might be a bit dicey.

Approachable managers have certain traits in common. Whether you’re a boss or not, if you want to be more approachable, try to do as many of these things as possible.

Here are eight ways to become a more approachable manager:

1. Smile

Let’s be honest. If you can’t smile, the rest of this list will be nearly impossible to do, so let’s take care of our No. 1 trait right now. Several studies throughout the years show that the amount of time you smile during a conversation has a direct impact on how friendly you’re perceived to be. Also, people mimic the expressions on the faces they see, so if you smile, you’re more likely to be smiled at.

One caveat: Make it a nice warm smile, not some bizarre toothy grin.

2. Be sincerely into the other person and what they have to say

Sure, there might be times when you are absolutely crushed with work and can’t talk, but otherwise, put aside whatever you’re doing and focus on the other person. Be easily impressed, entertained and interested. People get more pleasure from entrancing YOU with their humor and insight than from being blown away by your humor and insight.

If you can’t talk at that moment, there’s nothing wrong with a simple apology and a promise to talk as soon as your schedule opens up. That’s just one more thing that makes you approachable … and a nice person.

3. Open up your body language

Lean toward people, nod, pepper the person’s conversation with affirmatives (such as, “Yes”, “I see”, or even a simple “Uh-huh”), and turn your body to face the other person’s body. Don’t turn your body away, cross your arms, or grunt monosyllabic answers like you’re a Neanderthal. And, for gosh sakes, do NOT check your phone while the other person talks. Unless your wife or partner is in the hospital about to deliver a baby, the phone stays hidden.

4. How you talk about others reflects back on you

Psychologists call it “trait transference.” It’s the phenomenon when whatever you say about other people influences how people see you. If you describe a co-worker as brilliant and charming, your colleague will tend to associate you with those qualities. Conversely, if you describe a co-worker as aggressive and obnoxious, those traits will stick to you. So watch what you say.

5. Be self-deprecating

Showing vulnerability and a sense of humor makes you more likable and approachable. However, don’t push it too far—keep it light. Constantly insulting yourself or poking fun at your quirks makes people uncomfortable and quickly makes you the person to avoid at the office.

6. Make yourself a beacon of energy and good humor

Because of the phenomenon of “emotional contagion,” people catch the emotions of other people, and they prefer to catch an upbeat, energetic mood. Even if you revel in the sarcastic cynic persona, you can do it with good humor and warmth and people are attracted to it. Hey, Groucho Marx became a legend doing it in Hollywood.

7. Show the other person you like them … even when you’ve never met them

We’re more apt to like someone if we think that person likes us. Have you ever noticed that some celebrities and athletes are almost universally beloved because of stories of them treating fans like long-lost friends? Showing interest in another person is a powerful, powerful thing. I once had a phone interview with a hiring manager who was exceptionally pleasant during the call. The job went to someone else, but because of the way he treated me and put me at east (in an interview!!!), I smile every time I see the name of the company in the news. You cannot buy that kind of good publicity.

8. Use the other person’s name often

There’s nothing more influential at making a good impression than using the other person’s first name occasionally during the conversation. If you have trouble with names, don’t panic. You can learn some tricks to remembering names here.

In today’s work environment, the relationship people have with their boss is the No. 1 reason for staying with or leaving a company. Having approachable managers means the workforce will be more loyal and engaged and should decrease employee turnover.

Hope this help if you are a manager or wanting to be one. I thought I will share since it has some good points.

Jani-

Crown Council’s Annual Event

Crown Council was designed to be a significant team experience. This event provides education, motivation and skill training that empowers dental teams with the knowledge of how to create a culture in their practice that will bring them financial and personal success.

We are almost there. We have all the team members that wants to participate in this awesome event ready. We are anxiously waiting for the date to come.

Thank you to all of you that participated in earning your seat.

We had so much fun while doing it.

Let me share with you what some of us did.

1. Learn and grow: Few employees attended to Leadership Academy in Texas, Dr. Whiting and I attended to sleep Apnea Course in Texas, I attended to a women’s leadership Symposium at Mary Baldwin University, Dr. Rockey attended to ASA classification training and I have few others that attended to New Patient Workshop and read a book and teach about it.

2. Volunteer work: A team member volunteered at church every second Sunday of the month with kids, Dr. Ash volunteered with church duties at church, Another member volunteered at church girl’s camp, Becky volunteered at a yard sale for Haiti, and Erica volunteered at her church vacation bible school.

3. Acknowledge and Recognize Teammates: There was a lot of recognition traveling around the office for sure. Notes, candy, gifts, verbal appreciation, secret appreciation, breakfast, lunch, treats, snacks, you name it….

Overall it was a great experience for everyone to be able to learn and share the experience of what it takes to earn a crowncouncil seat. There were more than just three items. I figured I’ll share just a few.

God Bless,

Jani