Yesterday I got hit whit someone in pain that left me a list of complains she had about another person. It literally took 15 mins or so for me to listen to this person without interruption. After actively listening to this person for straight 15 minutes all it took me to ask was this question, what is it that you want out of this person? The answer which I already knew was, TIME. I want this person to give me TIME. There was silence. When problems arise, resilient people determine what is within their control to fix and go about their business. In a world sometimes filled with negativity and complaining, it can be tempting at times to complain for the sake of complaining. Instead use your complaints about your life as an opportunity to improve your life. “What could be done about it?” What request or change could I make to eliminate this complaint from my life? I have found that complaining without taking action to do something about it is very disempowering- not to mention unproductive. When you stop having problems and start solving them , your life becomes more productive, joyful and powerful. We spent sometimes focusing on how to make that request of time more effective without complaining.
**Complaints often indicate that an expectation or need is not being met.**
Have you been cleared about your expectations? Have you voiced your dissatisfaction and requested a specific change or solution? Until you do, you may find yourself stuck with the same complaints indefinitely.
God Bless,
Jani
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