Lessons I’ve Learned

As I embark this leadership journey one of the things that I am pretty good at and that I continuously purposely strive for is to do better staying real. A leaders first responsibility is to define reality. I am a very positive and optimistic person but I keep things 100% real. I just can't see the reality of something and straight up deny it. Now let me ask you this, how about you? Do you ignore what is in front of you and look at it a different way so you can make excuses? Knowing that the reality of the matter is right in front of you? You keep being so positive and optimistic about it that in reality what you are doing is hurting yourself and your team, family, relationships or whatever that may be? Let me share this with you for a second, people change only when they hurt just enough that they have to, learn enough that they want to or receive enough that they are able to. Did you get that?  In my life I have been in situations where I have had to change because of pain, there has been time where I have changed because I learned enough that I had to and I have also changed because I have received enough that I was able to. Where do you find yourself today? I would like for you to take a look and see why you need to make a change in you life, in your relationship, at work, in your business and be realistic about it, as much as it may hurt ( Do not sugar coat it).

 Jack Welch has this 6 rules I am going to share with you on his book Straight from the Gut. They are the following:
1. Control your destiny or someone else will.
2. Face reality as it is, not as it was or as you wish it were.
3. Be candid with everyone.
4. Don't Manage, Lead.
5. Change before you have to.
6. If you don't have a competitive advantage, don't compete.

 Five out of Six of these rules are about facing reality and this is hard for some people to see. I love #2 the most. We need to face reality as it is, not as it was or we wish it were. Take a moment to think about this. Do not try to go against your problem that consistently keeps showing up over and over again, whatever it may be face it. Be realistic about it, handle it and do what you need to do. Remember that the situation is often worse than you think. The process it usually takes longer than you think. (I'm a testimony of that) and the price always cost more than you think. If you lack realism today, then you may lack credibility with others tomorrow. Facing reality is often nasty, but is is necessary. I'm going to leave you with this quote: